Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seems like lately there have been a lot of conversations around me that have revolved of what has happened and what will happen.
…on what will happen…
Are we really so arrogant as to presume that we know what will happen? Every movement, thought, etc. that we do this very second changes what will happen in the next. The number of outcomes based on these little movements or too numerous to even fathom. Not to even mention the big movements that we choose. Arrogance is the only word I can think of.
Add in trying to guess the future when a second party is involved. We can’t see our own future, how do you figure that you can guess someone else’s?
….what has happened…
I could go in the big scene from The Lion King about the past, but we all know that one. Sometimes gripping onto your pain from the past makes you feel like you have a purpose for today. There are times that justified anger/hurt/pain from the past is needed to protect us from making the same mistakes. There are also times that you have fought the fight for so long that you don’t realize that the battle is over and there is nothing to fight. It’s these times that one becomes blinded to what is actually going on. Flinging their pain around like a banner and hurting those around them in an attempt to stave off the pain that they experienced so long ago. Emotional vigilantes – If I can’t heal then we all will hurt.
Let’s say you cut yourself. Given time and proper treatment that cut will heal. But if you continue to pick at it, the wound becomes larger and the lines of the original hurt are blurred.
Same thing with life. Sometimes we get “cut” in life. Instead of waiting for the healing and doing the things required to let it heal. We expose it over and over. Digging into our pain and allowing it to become bigger. Never healing. We take that pain and start spreading it around in our lives. Not only are we hurting, but now we have begun to hurt the area around us. Family, friends, work, hobbies, etc. Everything becomes infected.
It’s time to stop digging into our old pains. Allow the healing. Stop the emotional damage before more infection begins.
Let go. Forgive. Move on.
I’m not saying just forget about your pain. It’s real. You are entitled and you are darn right….IT HURTS AND THAT SUCKS! But to allow it to consume and dictate the rest of our lives? That’s nonsense!
Live, Laugh, Learn, Listen and Love.
No matter how much longer we have in this life, I can assure you there will be more trials, more hurt and more pain. Equally, there will be more laughter, more happiness and more memories for the making. Every day spent picking at our pain is time wasted on enjoying the moment. Choosing past heartache over healing.