I wasn’t on a mission and I had nothing that I wanted, but I tried to appear busy when I accidentally made eye contact with the customer service lady over a rack of clothes.
“How are you, Ma’am?”
“I’m fine, thanks.”
Then it hit me…I wasn’t fine. For once I was going to admit to it and she was going to be sorry she asked.
I whirled around, looked her straight in the eye.
“Actually my day has sucked. I lied when I said I was fine. I’m going through a divorce and have just had a horrible day so far.”
(Ha! That’ll teach her for asking)
Instead she walked up to me with a warm smile.
“You too? I’m going through a divorce too and I’m having a horrible day.”
We then proceeded to talk for almost 30 minutes about our struggles. Encouraging and empathizing. Turns out we are pretty much in the same boat. We also both have a child with Asperger’s.
It ended in an exchange of phone numbers, email addresses, promise of play dates and a new friendship.
I walked away amazed at the power of honesty in feelings and the willingness of a stranger to connect. I could have left it at, “I’m fine, thanks.” but then I wouldn’t have made a new friend.
Dear Jane Doe (I don’t want to use your real name here) I gave you my website and I just wanted to acknowledge that little moment that we both decided to be real with who we are and where we are in life.
Oh and I ended up buying that little pink sundress and it looks fabulous!!!