Dear Kitty,

Dear Kitty,

So life has been unfair. You have been hurt, suffered loss, been the butt of a lot of jokes and just plain see life as a big pain in the tookus. You might struggle with depression, mental health, physical health or other afflictions.

Well, walk it off and suck it up, Buttercup. You are Christian and you got to keep up the strength of the faithful. Still stinging? Well, maybe you just aren’t praying hard enough…or at least that is what we have been conditioned to believe.

That is so wrong on so many levels.

Guys, we need to grieve and lay out our grievances. I truly believe that the God who created us just wants us to talk to Him on whatever level we are on.


One of my daughters was in a truly rotten mood. She was stomping around, scowling and grumbling. I would ask her what is wrong, although I already suspected it was something to do with going back to school. I would ask her what was wrong, but she would just turn her back and respond “Nothing.”

“But I want to help you, because I understand.”

“It’s nothing.”

I can clearly see her anger and pain. Why doesn’t she just talk to me about it? Does she not trust me with it? How can I help her if she just won’t be honest with what is going on? Maybe I can’t fix it, but I want to comfort her.


Life is seriously hard sometimes. A lot of us feel like a boulder has dropped down and we are pinned underneath. Then we are at that spot, the one where we desperately need help and comfort, but we got to maintain that front and sing our praises out. It’s not about sucking it up anymore. We are in a season of brokenness and singing some kind of praise to the One who designed our lives leaves a bitter taste.

Just like what I wanted from my daughter, God desires for you to just cry out. Stomp your feet all you want, scream, gripe and whine; get it out. He gets that you can’t see the future and the purpose of this season, but that doesn’t mean that He wants you to stuff it all in and suffer in silence.

Being honest about this pain is not going to tick off The Big Guy, it is an avenue to restoration. A moment when we are so sincere and honest that our spiritual relationship flourishes as we let it go and let Him have it. Beginning to lean on the belief that we don’t have to face it alone and that He is going to meet us in our crisis.

There has been so many times in my life that I was neck deep in some serious grief, anger and depression. The call from most of my Christian friends, was to “be strong.”

Worst advice ever.

So here is my advice to you that I believe is founded in Biblical truth…

Get mad, cry, stomp your feet and whine to The Big Guy. You have permission.

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. – Psalm 34:18

He wants to hear it all. Not just in the good times when you can’t stop yourself from singing about how great your life is, but in the hard times when you are crushed. It may not be something that He is going to reach down and rectify immediately, but there is a purpose and He wants to comfort you while you wait.

Categories: August 2013 Diary Entry

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2 replies

  1. I think this is great advice. đŸ™‚

  2. One of my favorite and least favorite verses says the God desires truth in our innermost beings. I refuse to believe that if we look that deep down and find some really yucky, awful, dark, painful stuff God is going to say, “Well, good luck with that. Be strong. Don’t bother me with it.” He is, after all, the one who wants us to dig deep. He is in no way surprised at the hard stuff we find there, when we pay enough attention to our authentic selves. Seems to me that is exactly what He is directing us to do. “Be strong” has been so twisted in the church. I won’t get all theological (becs I am no theologian!). I will say, “Amen and amen” to your good words.

    Take care,


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