Dear Kitty,


Dear Kitty,

Let’s say we are sitting at a table together and I have a cup of coffee in front of me. If I were to ask you what it was, you’d respond “coffee.” We know what it is because the contents have been defined.

Now I pick up the coffee and move it over 6 inches. I ask you again, “What is it?”


Then I pick up the coffee and drink it all, but refill the empty cup with water. Now what is it?


The definition never changed by simply moving it’s location. It only changed when the contents were changed.

So you are ready for a change in your life. A change in your relationships, your work or your heart. You try to move around your life putting distance in some places or getting closer in other spots. Then you sit back and wonder why nothing is different. After all, you moved around and that should change things, right?

You, and the definition of who you are, isn’t changed until you are willing to drain those old defining things and put in something different.

You: fearful, insecure, hurt, anxious, doubting, untrusting, etc.

There comes a time when these old definitions aren’t what you want anymore. Maybe you’ve allowed them to stay in your cup because its familiar or scary to do something new. Maybe you just thought “if I can just do ‘xyz’ I can change me.”

Drain your cup. It’s time. Not a single bit of good is going to come by just moving it around. It’s time to empty yourself to be changed and refilled.

Filled: hopeful, peaceful, assured, accepted, trusting, etc.

Yes, it’s a little scary and nerve wracking, I’ve been there. I’ve looked at my almost empty cup and thought, “What if it stays empty? What will be the new definition and am I ready to accept that? Who am I, really?”

But we are friends here at this table and I know how you feel about your cup. I know your fear and it’s not justified. You can trust me here. There are better things for you and a new definition just waiting for you to fill yourself with.

Drain your cup. It’s time.

May God, the source of hope, fill you with joy and peace through your faith in him. Then you will overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. – Romans 15:13

Categories: june 2013 diary entry

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18 replies

  1. I know I can trust you. Another one that hits home for me lately. You’re wisdom runs deep and you always put things in just the right way to inspire change. Yo are an old soul for sure.

  2. Yo…I’m not rapping…I meant YOU. 😉

  3. It takes faith to believe that the cup never stays empty. Beautiful post my friend.

    • That’s the truth, Sandi!!! But a cup (in its very nature of its creation) is never intended to sit empty.

      Do you think we fear the emptiness more than we fear change?

      What would you say to someone with those fears?

      • Hmm, great questions. I think people fear change more than anything because it’s uncertain, and in that dark scary place in our minds, it will probably lead to emptiness. But that’s the worst case scenario, which doesn’t happen nearly as often as we expect!

  4. Interesting what you just said Alycia. Got me thinking. A cup, in it’s greatest form is symbolized by the holy grail, the ultimate receptacle for creation itself. Whoah….I just scared myself…maybe too deep for this convo.

    • Oh, I Iike where you are going there, Erin.

      Going to the creation aspect, do you feel that we in our very creation were filled and then emptied of our own accord and choices?

      Like we had the water in the cup initially…we put in the coffee grounds to change its nature, but then we have to seek out water ourselves? In that theory…it makes it seem like the water was never gone, our free will changed it but we still have it inside of us.

      • Now you’re scaring me with all your wise deepness….I guess I’ll go there, what the heck… The water is love. Love is the creative force of everything, even ourselves. The only thing that makes it SEEM like there is an absence of love is fear. So you very astutely put it, that the water (love) is never gone, just muddied up by fear. We have a choice to choose love or fear. Love is the truth(always) and fear is the lie.

      • Yo, that gave me chillz for realz.

  5. Wish I had been able to hear you last night in Bixler Chapel. Lee Hodges gave your blog address and I”m so glad to find it. I’ll download your books to read. I’ve sent this link to my brother who is a family counselor in West TN. Check out my blog. I write about loss but the loss of our daughter.

  6. Maybe it’s time to just dump this banged up, dented, chipped, and cracked, cup on over! Should be easy for a self-proclaimed klutz! It isn’t though … and I’m scared! And I keep crying today! Love you girlie!

  7. Beautiful. And wise. Love this post and analogy for life. Stopped by from the SITS Sharefest on Twitter and so glad I did.-Ashley

  8. Visiting from the SITS Sharefest! Right now I am in the process of re-inventing myself, in part because I have to and in part because I want to. I was laid off, along with just about everyone else in the company I worked for, when an investor pulled out. And so I took my new skills and started a blog and started a new business. I like what I am doing, I’m happy, and I’m setting goals for myself. Things are starting to fall into place. I think your post is an important read…we need to be able to embrace change to grow as people. It’s not always easy, but it IS always rewarding.

  9. Oh no! My comment seems to have disappeared! I am visiting from the SITS Sharefest! I’m in the process of re-inventing myself, after being laid off, along with most of the rest of the company after an investor pulled out. I decided to start a blog and start a new business, and I am really happy with the progress I am making. If we don’t embrace change, we can’t grow as people. And while change isn’t always easy, it IS always rewarding!

    • My blog has been eating comments lately. Sorry, her greedy appetite got you!

      Thank you for visiting and how awesome this time of change is for you. Congrats on your new venture. It’s not always comfortable, but re-evolving is so worth it!

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