Dear Kitty,

Dear Kitty,

Lately, I have seriously considered getting a cat charm to wear on a bracelet. I’m not a cat person at all. In fact, although I had a moment in life where I actually owned one of the furry disdainful beasts; I barely tolerate them. A cat charm would serve as a reminder to me though about who I am and who I want to be.

I have made several references in my writings in the past about widows being sad, gray haired, hunch-backed old ladies that shuffle behind closed curtains and collect cats.

Widows are not young people with children.

Widows aren’t the person you see hanging out with their friends at a restaurant.

Widows are not exuberant newlyweds.

I might be a widow, but I am not going to collect cats.

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There is a man that my husband and I see sometimes. I remarked that he always seems so serious, although I have never talked to him on a personal level. Then before I could stop myself I added, “but I guess some see me that way too.”

I am fully aware that most conversations I have with people in person always start with them asking “Are you OK?”

Brian agreed and said that sometimes I probably come across as that “cat widow.”

Dang, I *loathe* when I have to self examine myself.

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I’m an introvert by “nurture” not by “nature” so it’s a constant struggle to join in the public.

I spent a lot of years tucked away by myself and because of that situation, I withheld a lot of physical signs of emotion. I attribute some of my mental/emotional survival to being able to effectively hide.

I also am just not comfortable in crowds (and to me, more than 3 people can be considered a crowd) I don’t know what led to me being like that, it just is. I start getting into a “crowded” situation and I automatically start “hiding” and trying to put distance around me.

It’s a skill that although I don’t want anymore, I am comfortable doing.

I don’t want you seeing that side of me though. I don’t want you to think I am more comfortable closing the drapes and collecting cats.

I like to laugh. I love to play pranks. I jump in puddles with my kids. I like to have grocery cart races down the parking lot. I like to hug. I like to hear about you.

But sometimes when I am “hidden,” you don’t see that.

I don’t want you to ask me “Are you OK?” because I seem so serious, I want you to grab my hand and let’s laugh.

I don’t want there ever to be a conversation where someone whispers about me, “she just seems so serious all the time.”

…and frankly… I need a cat charm to remind me to quit doing what is comfortable and to show you what is true.

 



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3 replies

  1. Someday I want to hold your hand and laugh and laugh.

    xoxo

  2. Are you sure you just want a charm? I could send you a whole cat! 🙂

    I love your precious heart and your way with words. Most of the time I just want to type “me too” in this little box and be done with it! Today though I would say that my introversion is by both nature and nurture. Interesting because my whole family are very vocal extroverts. I guess I was quiet by default.

  3. Wait, don’t you HAVE a barn cat? You don’t need a charm ;-p I’m not a cat person either but I’m pleasantly surprised by how much I like “cat dog” and “crazy cat”. LOL. (real names are Simba and Nala). At any rate, I hope someday I meet you in person so we can laugh and laugh. I love laughing and I don’t do enough of it 🙂

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