Sometimes we are faced with a situation that begs two things from us. Fight or Flight. Finding yourself getting backed into a corner, the instinct to either lash back or escape is about the only thing you can do.
But what can you do after you have made your choice? Do you keep running or keep fighting? Both are exhausting and usually do nothing to resolve the initial situation. The best thing sometimes when you don’t know what to do is to do nothing. Be still. Find your truth.
It’s sorting through the voices around you, the voice in your head and the voice in your heart. It’s deciphering what prompted the situation and then digging through the rubble left to find what is yours to own or throw away.
Recently I had a situation come up where I had to step back for a while (including shutting down all online activity) to stop the fight or flight and find my truth. I was forced to look back at my life, my choices and the life that I was living. Issues that I thought had long been resolved came crashing back into the present. It was the moment to shovel through the junk and find my truth.
Sure, I have made some pretty bad choices in my life. I’ve made mistakes, stumbled and fell. I’ve been selfish at times and I haven’t always been nice. Being a human is messy business.
My truth is not in my past. My truth is what choices I make today and my hopes for tomorrow. I laid my past on the altar a long time ago and choose to walk in my today without my burdens of my yesterdays.
There have been so many times in my writing that I tried to love on all of you and encourage you knowing you struggled just as I did. Exposing the truth that is in all of us even when I was having a rotten day and unsure of if I even believed in my own truth. My writings were as much for me as they were for you. When I shared life lessons with you, it was for the purpose of me trusting those truths as much as they were written to encourage you.
Faith and truth is something that has to be fought for everyday. It’s a battle between your yesterday and your today. It’s the choice you make to follow your heart’s truth and disregard the heaviness of your mind’s voice. The voice that throws all the past back on you and tries to burden your present.
You may have screwed up royally with your kids – Your truth is that you want to be the best parent possible and your children are your heart.
You may have been a less than stellar spouse – Your truth is that you fight for your marriage with your heart.
You may have let down family or friends – Your truth is that these people are the ones you love and will hold close to your heart.
I urge you and I today to seek out what our truths are today.
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Alycia Neighbours 
Being human is the messiest business of all and some days I do get so tired of cleaning up the spills. But then I remember what’s important to me, what I want my life to be about, and most of all how I want to feel. And I fight with that with all my heart.
I like that, Sandi.
“What I want my life to be about, and most of all how I want to feel”
I think that is one of the most important things we can do in finding our truth. I also think that is where I struggle the most. It’s so easy to define (or let others) us by our major screw-ups and engage in “Fight or Flight.” It’s so much more rewarding to sit back and say “I did that, I own it; but I am forgiven and it will not define me.
Beautifully and thoughtfully written as always. I think as I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to “sit” with things much longer than I used to and it definitely helps how I react. Although sometimes “flight” sounds pretty good doesn’t it?
Flight sounds real good a lot of the times, Jess. I struggle also with letting it “sit” for a while. It’s so easy for me to go off half-cocked and run with it. Sometimes though you have to think of your truth and decide what you want your tomorrow to look like and arrange your actions accordingly even if its not what you initially wanted. Sometimes it DOES mean standing on the line you drew in the sand and fighting and sometimes it means stepping back and refusing to get drawn in.
You would love the online class I’m doing. It’s called Soul Restoration 2. (I haven’t done #1 yet which is really bugging the heck out of me!) We are working on our Mission Statements and an art journal titled THIS is the life I want to live! I do plan to go back and do the first session, as well as one called Body Restoration, because at 53, I have reached a point where I am just not content to accept broken any more. I am TRULY sorry that some times my need to find answers, healing and peace, hurts my mother and I TRY to avoid that, but I will not ignore the cry of my inner child until her passing … I can’t! I did however tell her that I wasn’t sure it was wise for her to read my blogs. (She hasn’t commented since! Not sure whether or not she is lurking. At least she is not correcting my recollection of history.) I don’t want to LIVE in the past! I want to face it, deal with it, and finally be free to move on!
Check out Brave Girls Club (home of the Soul Restoration courses) here: http://bravegirlsclub.com/