Widows – What to NOT say.

My dear friends in a widow’s group put this little video together.

One thing I have learned that I want to pass on to you and it’s mentioned several places in the above video…please don’t ever try to marginalize someone’s situation by saying that you understand what they are going through. Even if you mirror the exact situation, I guarantee that you don’t know what they are going through because we all process and feel things differently at different intensities and times. Pain is pain, grief is grief and loss is loss. It’s all raw, but you can’t possibly understand what someone feels exactly at any given time.

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3 replies

  1. Wow! BaD DAY. tOOK MY MEDS TO help me sleep and I’m fuzzier than the norm.But I still wanted to say that while I was not appalled by the video. I am appalled that people say such unkind things to each other. So sad. Especially when they have the nerve to call it ministry! I hate that word!

  2. We got some of the same type responses when we lost our 1st baby. Some people just don’t know what to say, thus feel they have to say something. Others think they are helping, but don’t realize all you want is for them to be there…a hug, an I’m sorry, or a listening ear is perfect! 🙂 This is great. I may have to re-post!

  3. I never know what to say so I end up saying “I’m so sorry” and then hug them. I never feel as though that’s enough.

    Would love to see a video (or a blog post) about what loving things we could say…


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