TRDC: A Sister’s Scar of Love

Writing Prompt: Memory and Reflection
Our memories are powerful—whether they actually happened the way we remember them isn’t as important as what we remember and why. So something I would like you to try this week is to hone in on a memory and then interrogate it. One way to incorporate more reflection in your writing is to constantly be asking yourself questions.

This is a writing exercise in two parts:

Part I
Make a list of some of your most vivid childhood (or more recent) memories. (Maybe it’s an image of your father or mother doing something they did regularly; maybe it’s a visit to a grandmother’s house.)

Jot down a few memories and then pick one and write it down in as much detail as possible. (Take 10-15 minutes to do that…)

Part II
Now I want you to investigate what this memory means to you. Ask yourself the following questions: Why has this stuck with me? What did this mean to me at the time? Why did I (or someone else in the scene) react the way I (they) did? How does it feel to look back on it? How does it still affect me (or not)? (Take 10-15 minutes to do that.)


She stood and looked at the mark I just left on her as one thousand emotions scattered across her eyes. Her mouth worked itself into a scream and I knew I had crossed the line. My twin sister and I had been in more than a thousand fights by now, but this one had turned into something more serious. I can’t tell you how old we were at this point or what we were fighting about, although I am pretty sure that she remembers. After all, she’s the one that still bears the physical scar 20 plus years later.
I stood and held the hot curling iron still in my hand as the scorched smell of burnt skin filled the small bathroom upstairs at my Granny’s house. I can’t remember if I started apologizing or stood there defiant in my action. I do remember the sinking feel that I had just caused her an unjust amount of pain and I felt sick at what I had done. I was also very aware of not just the amount of pain she was in but the unique position of power she held over me. I had been warned and punished numerous times for my hot temper. I had been told that I took things too far, but in my defense I rarely started any of the fights we had. I did end them though, by whatever means necessary.
The moment was on top of us now. The moment that silent scream was going to find its voice and my Granny’s wrath and disappointment would color our short visit with her. My sister had to have known that the minute she screamed and pointed the finger at me I would be in a deeper trouble than I had ever seen. I looked at her and suddenly realized as our Granny loomed over us that she had been screaming. Somehow as fear had begun to run through my veins, I had become deaf to the cries that had already begun. Granny’s eyes flew wide as she examined the burn that was the same length of the curling iron and thankfully I had already put the weapon down so there was no immediate smoking gun to alert her of my guilty role. As she herded us up to take us down to the drugstore immediately for some salve, it began to soak in that my sister had said it was an accident. She never pointed the finger at me that I deserved.
One the car ride to the drugstore Granny worried and fretted over the injury, my sister cried with the pain and I sat in numbed silence.

Why had she not pointed me out? 
Was she just waiting until my parents arrived to pick us up and then let the guillotine fall upon my shameful, guilty head? 
What was her angle? 

It was at that moment that she turned around and delivered a slight, sympathetic smile to me. We were never those types of twins that you hear about that share feelings or could read minds, but that whisper of a smile told me that she was not going to rat me out. She forgave me and was going to keep my evil deed a secret. She forgave me. I hadn’t asked for it and I didn’t deserve it.

20 something years later and we have since told my parents what really happened. They learned of the fight that caused the scar the way that adult children reveal truths to their parents in a laugh about it being the past. I’m sure my parents were horrified, but it is the past. We fought many times since that day and we still get into arguments, but that day I learned of a true sister’s love and forgiveness. She knew the “pain” that I would have received for such a horrendous action against her and she choose to shield me from it. She choose to carry the pain and suffering by herself.

I can’t tell you that moment changed our relationship forever, but every time we are together these days and I catch a glimpse of that scar I am reminded. I am reminded that sometimes no matter how bad it hurts that there are those people in our lives that we love so much that we are willing to suffer for them. We bear the burden of their pain and shield them. We discern that they deserve a touch that is severe and we muster up a small smile that tells them that they are forgiven based only on the love we share. My sister has a scar that was created from my anger, but is more of a symbol of a sister’s love.

Categories: forgiveness, love, sibling rivalry, siblings

19 replies

  1. beautiful, alycia. so sweet, what she did. and i love the way you wrote about it. i've always wished i had a sister. at least i can watch my little girls, but still.

  2. What Erin said.I have always wished I had a sister too and you illustrated why so perfectly in this piece. I love the story you shared and the lesson that has carried you through life because of it.Can I tell you how happy I was to see you sitting in your chair linked up on TRDC?Beautiful work as always.

  3. Beautiful. The way you captured your relationship, in that one instant, and in these words. I think it was perfect. I read so much more info it, had it been fiction I would have wanted to hear more about them, but you ended it perfectly and summed it up so well that for you and your sister, I did not need more.

  4. Sadly, I did the same thing to my brother..but he totally turned me in. Damn, I really needed a sister. Love this story so much. You are an incredible writer.xo

  5. I was the only boy in the family and since I was bigger/stronger the girls used to sometimes come after me with a vengeance.I remember a few moments where I didn't turn them in. In part it was because I knew that as their big brother I had to look out for them.But I have to admit that I sometimes liked feeling I had an ace up my sleeve that I could play.

  6. Your posts often make me cry. In a good way, in a powerful way.What a beautiful love you and your sister have.

  7. First – Funny – I could neve in a million years guess that you would have ever had a hot temper 🙂 And this is so poignant – you are a writer you know. And the twist that the scar you left is a reminder of her love and forgiveness. It could so have turned out the other way. I couldn’t stop reading. And I didn’t skim – I read. every. word. – even went back and reread parts. Thank you for this CW – good stuff :).I’m glad I met you. God Bless and Keep

  8. Wow, isn't having a sister amazing? I don't have a twin, but we are very close. We had a secret language when we were little like lots of twins do. And even though we fought sometimes, we never physically hurt each other, except once when my sister slammed her bedroom door and it pinched my finger. It barely caught it, it didn't hurt that badly, but she felt terrible. I could see it in her face. And I felt terrible for making her feel terrible. So much love there. Great post!

  9. WOW….What a memory and what a story God makes out of our stories. He is just like that-we don't deserve His love and forgiveness and mercy but praise God we get it from Him!

  10. I would've so ratted you out. But I love that she didn't. True sisterhood.

  11. Oh. I love this. Not because you were all tempery…but so was I! I am still a bit of a hot-head.And that moment when a sibling chooses NOT to get you in trouble? Well, those moments are just not forgotten.Lastly, how much do I love that the scar is a symbol of sisterly love and not sisterly anger? I do love that. Very much.Love your writing…glad you are here!

  12. Oh wow. How terrible and touching both at once. I'm so sorry you have that scar to haunt you!

  13. You described the complicated relationship between siblings perfectly. It's sad, and yet so touching. Beautifully written.

  14. Wow. This was a wonderfully written post. Your words so powerfully described the bond between sisters.Of course, mine always ratted me out. The little brats.

  15. What a great story. It's amazing those moments that affect our lives so much.

  16. Totally took me back to this time when I hit my cousin really hard (I also had a temper) and waited anxiously for her to rat me out (she didn't).

  17. Very touching story. I don't know that I would have been as nice as your sister. I may not have told on you but I would have definitely made you pay LOL.

  18. I love this memory, and how you bring us right to the moment of understanding you'd gone too far. And how amazing that she didn't rat you out. Lovely writing about the complexities of sibling relationships. I look forward to reading more!

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