The past few weeks I have had the honor of several podcasts and interviews. Most are still in that post-production stage, but here is where I talked with Geek Girl Wife on her podcast. I had a great time talking with her about blogging! She gives a great interview!
One thing that came up time and time again was what advice did I have for other bloggers? The main advice I gave was to be authentic and real. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not just to gain a “following” because sooner or later that act will be seen through.
Not long after that interview we had a discussion come up in The Pit concerning what you put online. Whether it is pictures or personal stories, it has been discussed for years…how real is too real?
So how do you be an authentic blogger without being too real?
A blogger is a personality. Yes, whoever is writing is a real person but whatever they are writing is their personality. When you are reading what the blogger wrote, you are reading the work. So look at it as a work environment. How much do you share about yourself in the workplace? You may have pictures of your kids, a collection of clown masks, whatever; but how much of who you really are do you share?
That’s my rule of thumb when it comes to my online personality. It is my real authentic personality, but I don’t share things online that I don’t want to be talked about around the water cooler.
Another thing that I have talked about that ties into this is the “hate” mail. Once you have put yourself out there and especially if you have been authentic; there will be people who don’t like you. Some of the biggest mom bloggers out there right now have “hate” sites dedicated to them. Luckily, you and I probably don’t have a hate site yet, but we may have run into people who seem intent on destroying us for whatever reason. So how do you handle the “hate”?
Ignore and move on.
Seriously. Have you ever had someone attack you verbally in real life? The more you defend yourself, the more you try to fight…the worse it gets. There is a saying that “if you play with snakes, you are going to be bit” Totally true. The best thing to do is virtually walk away from the fight and move on. You may need to defend something and that is up to you with how far you want to take it. Personally, if you catch me mad…I’ll stand toe-to-toe all day; but if I have a chance to think, I’ll walk away and wash my hands of it. I learned a long time ago that we should be constantly working on self-improvement. If we have time to tear down someone else, we aren’t improving ourselves and those who spend hours, day, etc. plotting the demise of another will never learn how to better themselves.
So my blogger friends…that is my advice. Be authentic in your blogging, be real! Don’t put stock in those who let you know they don’t like you and never change who you are for anyone. Know that there will always be someone who is bent on destroying you and no matter what you do they will say you did the opposite. Enjoy your online personality and have fun with it, but most of all….just keep blogging!!